The first 5 years are the most expensive
Childcare in major metros runs $1,500–$3,000/mo per child — often the largest line item in the household budget, larger than the mortgage. The decision to have one parent stay home, use daycare, or use a nanny can swing 5-year household wealth by $100K+.
Run the math both ways: total daycare cost minus tax credits + lost retirement contributions vs lost salary, lost career trajectory, and reduced 401(k) matching from the at-home parent.
